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When brides and grooms plan a wedding – sometimes they wind up with too much input from family and friends. Sometimes it can simply be too much to handle. So how can you deal with these people? Many of them are well-meaning, they just want to help. Other times they really want to put their stamp on your day and make some type of an impact – for whatever reason. Weddings bring out a lot of emotions in people. Sometimes it can be hard to contain everything. No matter their reasons – it is important to keep in mind that it is your wedding and you deserve to have whatever type of wedding you want.
If you are deciding to marry into a different culture or religion from your family, this can often cause strife. Your family – even if they have not considered themselves religious – may get very upset because you are marrying outside of your faith. This upset feeling comes because marriage has to do with having children. So immediately your parents and their parents are wondering how you are going to raise your children. You are just planning a wedding – you may not have even decided how you will raise your children. What is most important is that you want to be with this special person and that you focus on that as the most important goal. Let everything else fall away. Don’t worry; after you have gotten married your family will come around. Some may take their time but others will understand.
Sometimes brides discover when they get married that their mothers are very excited to plan a wedding. They discover that there were so many things that their mothers did not have at their weddings that they all of a sudden want to have at their daughter’s wedding. Sometimes it is a prestige thing – to have this thing at their daughter’s wedding means that they are truly living the good life. Other times it is like they are re-living their young adulthood. But your wedding is a time when you need to stand out in your adulthood and tell your parents what you like and what you don’t like. You can always respect your parents but still say no to them. It may be helpful to come to some type of compromise. But if your mother is trying to plan her own wedding – she needs to be stopped. Encourage her to think about re-stating her vows with her husband, she might enjoy this.